TRAVEL GUIDE River cruising Europe How to feel right at home

STEPHEN SCOURFIELD's tips for the socially anxious

Too much conversation and not enough action?

If you’re travelling as “a couple”, will you end up sitting on your own for every meal and feel isolated?

If you’re shy, will you be forced on to tables with strangers? Will you be getting dressed in your room dreading the next two awkward hours over a meal?

Will you walk into the lounge and feel odd if you sit along, but not have the confidence to “invite yourself” to join people already seated?

Being forced into one big group of usually 100 or so people who will be together for several days makes some travellers nervous about river cruising. While they can see the advantages, a lot of people over the years have told me it’s the social situation that makes them most nervous and agitated.

MEAL TIMES

Most ships will have a main restaurant where most meals are served.

Breakfast may be a buffet with an “egg station”. There may be a buffet lunch, with some a la carte items served from the kitchen. Then dinner, of course, which will usually be a two-hour affair.

But for those meal times when you want a little quiet, but still feel hungry, there will often be other ways to dine — a small lounge at the aft with all-day snacks, a cafe-style area at the front of the ship. There may be room service or the chance to just ask if you can have a simple meal brought to your cabin.

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Men and women

COUPLES

Some women spend a lot of time in female company, and men have their mates, so travelling as a couple can actually feel quite isolating. The nature of river cruising and the number of guests is a good solution for this. Quite often, I have seen, particularly, “ladies’ groups” form to chat, and even go off on excursions together when their men don’t want to. I’ve seen men in the quiet “early breakfast” lounge chatting over morning tea at a time they might previously have been ready for work.

MEN

I’m in the small aft lounge of a river cruise ship, where there’s always a light breakfast from 6am. There are just four men here, a couple reading the on-board “newspaper” — the world’s news digested to one sheet, one looking at the BBC website on his mobile, another just staring out of the window, watching the bank go by. There’s not much conversation, just a mostly unspoken companionship. But this is where men often make connections. When they cross paths in the day, they’re meeting their morning buddies. Most ships have a small, more informal, baguette or toast, cheese and meats, fruit and yoghurt early breakfast set up, and it’s a good place for men to meet other men.

SINGLES

River cruising is good for singles. When you arrive at the restaurant, staff will often ask if you want to sit alone or join a table, and well trained staff with good companies are adept at making up “singles’ round tables”. Friendships are quickly and easily formed, as staff will be aware of nationality and become good at “spotting types”. There’s a real skill in this, and I’ve seen it in action over and over again.

Once these connections are established, their concerns about walking into a half-full lounge or restaurant evaporate — someone will catch your eye and pat the seat of the empty chair next to them.

SIZE MATTERS

So, the wash-up of all this is not to feel too reluctant or nervous about the social aspects of river cruising. For a start, most river cruise ships in Europe will have between, say, 100 and 150 guests. This is important for the socially apprehensive — as there are enough guests that you won’t get locked into one group and can “move around”, and if you are on a big cruise ship, you can be lost and lonely in the crowd. Some might like the familiarity of forming a bond with just one small group, and making sure they are all on the same tours and same tables. But I also see the nice opportunity for moving around and making new friends. Even the shy and socially anxious will have a better time than they expected.

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